I’m usually good at judging someone’s character and intentions for others, but I seem to lack the ability to work these out for my own.. ‘someones’! When I become ‘fond’ or ‘attached’ to someone, I tend to ignore massive red flags which others would see and try and warn me about, they give up (as in the end I have to ‘learn for myself’). And yet I cant ‘drop things’ easily when I see it in others… Contradictory, right? This absolutely shows how my brain works – or doesn’t in cases like that! When someone close to me makes a new friend (for instance), I will be very observant of what my friend tells me about said new person in their life, and if I got the chance to speak/meet them, I will absolutely question the living hell out of them to see if they’re a good person for my friend and if something doesn’t sit right with me. Like if they lie, if something doesn’t match up, or the person seems disingenuous – in anyway, I will call it out! There and then! So I guess I then look like the weirdo/over protective friend, but all I’m really doing (should I say, trying to do) is lookout for the person I care about. I guess it comes out the wrong way at times, and makes me appear ‘too much’. Its just the whole ‘let them learn for themselves’ mentality I need to have, yet I cant seem to grasp it, as most of the time I just cant help myself and I think I do it without realising most of the time. So, if being too honest was a crime, I’d be locked up for life, with no possibility of parole. I think this is one of the most common things with anyone with ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder), and if the person doesn’t really know us personally – it can come across as rude, and at times obnoxious. But the very small circle of mine, they understand me (to a point) and appreciate my honestly. And with them being in my circle, they’re equally as honest – which I deeply appreciate.

So, I guess that’s how I lose ‘friends’ sometimes.

T x